You know it when you've got it.
When I am working with the cameras, connection has a quality that is instantly familiar. Those are the moments when you don't need to check the back of the camera or a monitor screen. You know in your bones that you have made an image where your subject fully shows up, is properly 'seen' and authentically recognised.
I saw Mark for a fleeting moment with no option to talk as he went about his work. I'm not sure that he was entirely impressed that I had a camera in front of my face and he held my gaze as I put the camera down and nodded a 'thanks' across the factory floor.
One of the things that I am constantly learning, whether I am working on a visual brief, consulting dialogically with groups or in one-to-one coaching conversations, is that change requires connection.
Before we can talk sensibly about what we are setting out to do or worrying about who is in charge, we need to establish a sense of identity and trust that is held together within a respectful, caring relationship.
Only then can we develop the honesty and spontaneity that will lead to creativity and real change.
Connection doesn't need to be cosy. It can feel edgy and challenging but you will know when you've got it.
Really 'seeing' people; it's the simple stuff that is so difficult.